One day, a young man told his father, "Dad, I'd like to be a buddhist monk. Please..." His father looked at him, "Well, you can be a monk only if you work hard and give me NT$1,000,000; you have my word!" The young man was a nice son who respected his father, he agreed and worked had to fullfil his dharmma dream. Then, after a while, when he got NT$100,000, he met a girl. After that, when he got NT$500,000, he got a promotion, the girl became his girlfriend. Finally, when he got $1000,000, at hand, he was happy for his business and the future-wife. Did he mention his wish to his father again? No. Of course not. He gave NT$100,000 to his father and decided to be a husband instead of a monk. Did his father remind him of his dharmma dream again? No. Of course not. This was exactly what his father wanted in the first place: He wanted to trap his son with money and lust; he never wanted him to be a buddhist monk.
Lesson? Oh, if you want to be a buddhist monk, discuss this issue with an experienced buddhist monk; if you want to be a buddhist nun, discuss this issue with an experienced buddhist nun. Ask someone who understands your goal and purpose very well; ask someone who is and will be walking on the dharmma road.